Yes Brides! There is such thing… I am not making it up. There are some grooms who are very active in the wedding planning process and enjoy it. Nope, they aren’t dragged in kicking and screaming. They actually have opinions about what the wedding day will look like besides how they will look and how the cake will taste. While this may be a dream for some brides, I can see some of you gawking in horror. It is perfectly okay, and here is how to plan your wedding day in harmony. Let’s say… the date and your wedding colors have been chosen. 1. Take his opinions into consideration….after all it is his wedding too. 2. Compromise is the key if you are not seeing eye to eye. 3. Let him choose his grooms cake design. 4. Come up with a list of duties he can accomplish such as choose tux, book the dj, ask to set vendor appointments and include him on wedding errands. 5. Work together to make the ceremony meaningful. Take this a start to planning your life together. When things get stressful, always remember why you love each other and why you are getting married. Happy Planning
Let’s face it, wedding planning can be very stressful. The meetings, planning, budgeting… decisions, decisions, decisions. Everyone opinions are flying around about your big day. Before you go pulling your hair out, here are some ways to de-stress during the wedding planning process.
1. Hire professionals. In particular a whire a wedding planner (plug in). A wedding planner should help you make the right decisions and hire capable vendors that fit into your budget. Once you have a team of professionals all there is to do is wait on the big day.
2. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Things are going to come up. Things are going to happen. You will feel like nothing is going your way. It will be okay. It will work out.
3. Opinions are like _____ and every has one. You will get the most unsolicited advice regarding your wedding. you chose the wrong color, the wrong theme… when I did my wedding…. when i waaas a bridesmaid…etc. Some advice may be helpful, while others… well it just makes things more complicated. Stick with your vision and don’t try to make everyone happy. You simply can’t.
4. Take a break. That is right take a break. Every month, week, day, hour does not have to be engulfed in wedding planning. You have to take a breather from it. No Pinterest, no magazines, no wedding reality shows….no wedding stuff period. Take some time to just enjoy being engage. Trust me, it is so worth it.
5. Be realistic and flexible with the expectations of your wedding party and those assisting you. Don’t schedule every weekend for D.I.Y projects for your wedding. Be clear on what you expect with your wedding party from the beginning.
6. Schedule a relaxing massage. Or if you and your fiance’ are great at it, give each other a massage.
7. Find a person you can trust to vent. We all get frustrated. We all need to talk.. Don’t hold it in.
9. Take a mini vacation. you and your future spouse take off for the weekend. You can focus on the two ( or more if you have a family).
Find what works for you. Tell us how you de-stressed on during your wedding planning.
Your Wedding DJ is not your everyday DJ. It is imperative that you know the difference. Your DJ is your master of ceremonies and not just playing music. Your DJ is a very important vendor for your wedding. If they are providing the music for your ceremony make sure they have the proper equipment and know their cues. Is your ceremony and reception in the same venue but different areas? Can the DJ provide music and flow from ceremony, to cocktail hour to reception without missing a beat. They have to know how to transition from wedding to party. Can they fade the music to make announcements or are they shouting over the music. Make sure they follow the schedule and can pronounce every one’s name in the bridal party. If the company has more then one DJ find out exactly who it will be on your day and make an appointment to meet him/her.