Ways to Keep Calm During Wedding Planning| Triad Wedding Planner

keep-calm-and-de-stress--11Let’s face it, wedding planning can be very stressful. The meetings, planning, budgeting… decisions, decisions, decisions. Everyone opinions are flying around about your big day. Before you go pulling your hair out, here are some ways to de-stress during the wedding planning process.

1. Hire professionals. In particular a whire a wedding planner (plug in). A wedding planner should help you make the right decisions and hire capable vendors that fit into your budget. Once you have a team of professionals all there is to do is wait on the big day.

2. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Things are going to come up. Things are going to happen. You will feel like nothing is going your way. It will be okay. It will work out.

3. Opinions are like _____ and every has one. You will get the most unsolicited advice regarding your wedding. you chose the wrong color, the wrong theme… when I did my wedding…. when  i waaas  a bridesmaid…etc. Some advice may be helpful, while others… well  it just makes things more complicated. Stick with your vision and don’t try to make everyone happy. You simply can’t.

4. Take a break. That is right take a break. Every month, week, day, hour does not have to be engulfed in wedding planning. You have to take a breather from it. No Pinterest, no magazines, no wedding reality shows….no wedding stuff period. Take some time to just enjoy being engage. Trust me, it is so worth it.

5. Be realistic and flexible with the expectations of your wedding party and those assisting you. Don’t schedule every weekend for D.I.Y projects for your wedding. Be clear on what you expect with your wedding  party from the beginning.

6. Schedule a relaxing massage. Or if you and your fiance’ are great at it, give each other a massage.

7. Find a person you can trust to vent. We all get frustrated. We all need to talk.. Don’t hold it in.

8. Take up yoga, meditation etc. de-stress

9. Take a mini vacation. you and your future spouse take off for the weekend. You can focus on the two ( or more if you have a family).

Find what works for you. Tell us how you de-stressed on during your wedding planning.


Happy Planning!


Cancellation Policies |Triad Wedding Planner- Made of Honor Weddings

cancellation-policyRecently I met with a potential client and during our meeting it was revealed that they cancelled a wedding previously and had another planner. Of course I’m curious to know which of my colleagues they were referring to and why had they not chose to continue services with them. They continued to tell me the reason… they cancelled and the planner had the gall to keep the deposit…gasp!

Now, here is where I could have fallen into the gossip trap and have this potential client feeling this was okay. Instead I defended my competitor. The truth is most vendors have this policy. Most business have this policy to some extent. cancellation_policy

Read your contract thoroughly before signing. If you have questions be sure to ask. Even though your vendor has yet to do the grand finale; your date has been blocked and in the planners case, work has been done. Once your date is booked,  it is taken off the calendar. This looses potential income if you should decide to cancel your wedding. Most vendors have one or two weddings during the weekend and depending on when you cancel it would be hard to try to re-book that date. The best thing to do is read through your contract thoroughly. If you just need to change your date, ask your vendor about their policy. Be sure to find out what is the deadline to reschedule your date and how far in the future can you reschedule. Fingers crossed that you never have to cancel.

Happy Planning!

Why Weddings Need A Timeline|Triad Wedding Planner

wedding timelineWhat time do we make the toast?

What time will dinner be served?

When will you cut the cake?

We have entertainment, when should they perform?

Having a timeline is essential to every wedding or event. Why can’t I just go with the flow; you ask? You don’t want your guest waiting around for something to happen. Also, you don’t want everything happening at once and leaving your guest without anything to look forward to. Your vendors should have the timeline no later than two weeks before the wedding in case any changes need to be made.  There are a lot of timeline and schedules on the internet; a good timeline should be created just for your wedding. wedding-reception-timeline

How long does it take to get from site a to site b?

When will the vendors arrive?

How long are the speeches?

How long will it take to set up and break down?

Your event planner will know all this information and coordinate with the vendors to make sure everyone is on the same page. If you don’t have an event planner (get one) you need to designate someone to keep and eye on the time and make sure everything is going as planned. An event planner can make quick decisions regarding the timeline if something is running off schedule, and move things around so it still flows smoothly.

Happy Planning!

How To Pack For A Destination Wedding| Winston-Salem Wedding Planner


Airlines that allow carry on wedding gowns

Packing for a long trip is always difficult, but simplicity is the key. The great thing about most venues for destination weddings will provide everything the couple needs. So all you have to worry about is your bridal and vacation attire. We strongly urge you to bring your wedding gown onboard the plane. You don’t want to risk your dress being damaged or better yet lost (oh the horror). Destination Weddings

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 Call the airlines ahead of time to see if they can store the gown on the plane. Some airlines have closets for items that need to be hung. If not the next best thing to do is pack it on your carry on. Once you arrive you can find a place that can steam or press your gown. Carry your travel documents in your purse for easy access along with any electronics to make the trip easier such as your Tablet, Cell Phone and chargers.

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So we took the extra step for you (Because we are awesome like that) and listed a few airlines that we called ourselves. So here are some airlines that will allow you to carry your wedding gown on and store it for you.

American Airlines

United Airlines

Delta Airlines

US Airways

*** Some have restrictions, extra fees and/or need advanced notice. Please call to double check.

For more information on how to pack for a destination wedding, honeymoon or a simple vacation check out The Besty List.

What comes first…

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Now that he has popped the question and you have spread the wonderful news; the confusion of what to do first creeps into mind. Well the first thing to do is set a wedding date, secondly decide if you feel you need a wedding coordinator or planner. Discuss with you planner the type of wedding you desire, if you have a theme in mind and your budget. If you have a specific place in mind that you absolutely must have your wedding and/or reception, your wedding date should be flexible. If you wedding date is not flexible you should begin visiting venues right away. The most popular venues book up quickly. Have your wedding coordinator set up appointments for you. A good wedding planner will have you visit venues based on your budget and style. This way you don’t waste alot of time visiting places that just don’t fit. Take lots of pictures (if the venue allows it), you can always refer to your pictures when making your final decision. Ask the catering or event manager if they have pictures of previous weddings. This will help you visualize if the venue is not set up for a wedding during your visit. If this is an outside venue be sure to ask what is the backup plan. Just in case of inclement weather always have a backup plan. Be sure to visit the back up plan. Make sure there is plenty of space. You don’t want people climbing over each other to move around.
Here are some key questions to ask a during your visit:

1. Are there enough outlets for audio/visual equipment? Is the power supply sufficient for DJ and/or Band?

2. Does the venue provide a microphone?

3. Will the room accommodate the number of people comfortably?

4. Are outside caters allowed?

5. Can you provide your own alcohol? If you do what is the serving charge per person?

6. If there are any renovations scheduled during your date, or will be finished before your date?

7. Do they provide linens and glassware? Can the linen colors be changed? What is the fee?

8. Is there handicapped facilities? Can a bride fit into stalls wearing a wedding dress?

9. Will there be any staff present on your date?

10.Does the venue supply janitorial service? If not how much time do you have to clean up? Is the time included in your reception time frame?

11. What is the hourly fee if your ceremony and/or reception runs late?

12. What is your deposit amount? Late fees? Is your deposit refundable?

13. Is there a private room or place the bride and bridesmaid can change?

14. Is there a kitchen available? Can food be prepared and/or stored there?

15. Do you have enough time to view the contract and make a decision?

These are some of the key questions to ask your venue manager. Always inspect the cleanliness of the site and the site grounds. If there is anything that concerns you be sure to mention it. Be sure to get a business card or email address and phone number, you may have a question after you have left the site. If you have a planner/coordinator have them review your contracts before you sign them if the service is offered. Remember this is a happy occasion and you shouldn’t stress. Have Fun!

Every detail counts.

I can’t tell you how many times brides round the end of the planning process and rather it be budget issues or that they are just tired of planning but they want to give up on the little details that make the wedding pop. Many venues have their own linens and where as it is easy to go with what they have it may not got with your decor. Would the white and black solid linens that the venue provide compare to the vintage lace and Charmeuse sage linens you could have ordered. Now yes, there is a major price difference between the two but it makes a major difference at your reception. If budget is the concern, this is where your planner steps in. Lighting, linens, chairs, napkins, monograms, etc. are just a few of the minor details that can be overlooked towards the end. Go for the wow factor.