Wedding Etiquette:Thank You Notes

Writing thank you notes at the end of the wedding can be a tiring task but it is something that should be done within three months of your wedding. Your thank you notes should be handwritten and you should try to match your stationery to the theme of your wedding. During the wedding process once you start receiving gifts you should have some method of keeping track of gifts and who sent them. One great program that I give to my brides is the IDO software for couples. There are some free programs out there such as The Knot and similar websites. You can even create a spreadsheet on Excel.

Gifts that arrive prior to the wedding should receive their thank you notes first. Thank them for attending the wedding, don’t forget to mention the gift they sent. Don’t just say…”Thanks for the great gift.” that is not personal, and leads the guest to think you have no idea as to what they sent to you. Personalize each note.
You should also write thank you notes for guest that attended but did not bring a gift. Remember they still took the time out to come celebrate your wedding with you. You should also write a thank you to your vendors, especially for the vendors that went above and beyond. Vendors love receiving recognition for a job well done, and can put your notes into their testimonials. After all didn’t you want to see testimonials from prior brides before you booked that vendor.

You should write thank you notes for your engagement party within two to three weeks of the event. Thank you notes for gifts received prior to the wedding should be written as soon as possible but prior to the wedding. You have up to three months to write thank you notes for gifts received the day of your wedding. If you receive any gifts after they wedding they should be written as you receive them.

If you received a monetary gift or chose to do a honeymoon registry, share with your note what the gift was being used towards not the amount received. For instance if you used the money towards the saving for a home, or things purchased for the home, etc. Remember this is the last impression your guest receive of you as a new couple.


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