Negotiations vs. Haggling

Due to the recession, wedding budgets have been cut and couples are paying closer attention to what they are spending for their weddings. The media has been giving advice on how to get better prices from their wedding vendors. It encourages brides to try to negotiate or haggle vendors to dropping their prices.

Main Entry:

Inflected Form(s):
transitive verb1: to cut roughly or clumsily :
hack 2archaic : to
annoy or exhaust with wrangling intransitive verb:
bargain, wrangle

— hag·gler \-g(ə-)lər\ noun

This definition is from the webster dictionary.

To annoy or exhaust with wrangling… To annoy…

Trying to negotiate with a vendor is one thing. There is nothing wrong with asking, as we all know if you never ask, then you will never know. What is the worst that can happen? The vendor can say no. This is their right as a business to say no. You have to understand this is their lively hood. Would you want your boss to come to you and tell you to do the same or more work for less money and expect you to live with it. But the plus is they may say yes!

Because most wedding vendors are small businesses it has been the misinterpretation that less money is better then no money. If they want your business they will take what they can get, and do whatever it takes to make you happy, after all this is your wedding day.

Wedding planners, florist, dj’s, etc. are here to help create the wedding you desire. If you look bad we look bad. We are not out to get you. We are not hiking up our prices just because it is your wedding day. There is a lot of time and effort put towards each and every wedding in which we participate.

There are certain rules that as a professional you have to adhere to: license, insurance, associations, equipment, and educational fees. The wedding business is constantly changing and a good vendor will keep up with these changes by going to seminars and workshops. We haven’t even touched on paying staff and basic overhead of running a business.

Yes, there is always someone flying under the radar and offering low prices, but that is just it…they are not working with the professionalism you desire.

Main Entry:

\ni-ˈgō-shē-ˌāt, ÷--\
Inflected Form(s):
ne·go·ti·at·ed; ne·go·ti·at·ing
Latin negotiatus, past
participle of negotiari to carry on business, from negotium business, from neg-
not + otium leisure — more at
intransitive verb: to confer with another so as to arrive at the settlement
of some mattertransitive verb1 a: to deal with (some matter or affair that
requires ability for its successful handling) :
manage b: to arrange
for or bring about through conference, discussion, and compromise 2 a: to transfer (as a bill of exchange) to another by delivery or
endorsement b: to convert into cash or the equivalent value 3 a: to successfully travel along or over b:
complete, accomplish

ne·go·ti·a·tor \-ˌā-tər\ noun
÷-sē-\ adjective


Compromising may mean lowering your guest list, being flexible with your choice of flowers,choosing another day or time or including things that you normally would have to pay extra. A vendor will be more willing to work with you if they see you are trying to be flexible. You should not feel it is your God given right to “haggle” and get the price you expect.

Can you bargain with the wedding magazines that are giving the advice. Can you tell them you only want to pay $2 for the $4.99 price.

If you feel you can not afford the vendor you desire, then you should find another that will fit into your budget. You should chose a vendor based on their ethics, professionalism and reputation not because they are the cheapest. After all you get what you pay for.


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